You say this relationship is one way? Do you think so?
It would be a problem, if you're actually believe so! Honey, let me assure you, it isn't.
There is no way any relationship that's going on till now, is only one way or it will crumble and fall apart. (Sooner or later.)
There can't be a tide with only ebb or only flow.
There can't be a day without a night.
There can't be a dusk without a twilight.
There can't be black without white.
Everything have to be balanced out, even in the ugliest way possible.
We have to take in order to give. We can't only give or only take. And just like love language, giving and taking can take many forms. They can be materialistic, through money and gifts. They can be emotional, through emotional support and consideration.
It can also take from us to us. Just like when we do something good we feel good. I am a firm believer that one who cooks poison tastes it. (It goes for both good and bad.) Just like I was saying, giving and taking can take other forms. Ugly ones, like those in an abusive or toxic relationships. They continue in that relationship because being in it gives them something. They get a sense of pleasure or to be more accurate, satisfaction. They feel that they have contributed a good deed to the other person and that's likely will make them change. Maybe staying gives them a sense of security. Change requires bravery, lots of decisions and uncomfortable situations. So they stay. We stay. That other person doesn't have to be a living person. They can be a dead one, a memory, a place, a job... etc. Relationships don't only form between people.
So my friend, back to my original topic. I give you what I give you and I feel good about it, which gives me so much pleasure in itself. But you give me much more than what you think you do!
I might be a stone headed with a devilish twist and no self esteem but you build me up during the times I need the most. Your existence gives me security. You make me believe that I can move mountains and reach the stars. You get tired sometimes, but never bored of me. I can get myself anything in the world but I can't give myself the support you give me in a spare moment. You never fail to call me out when I am wrong. (Yet, I never am anyway.) You never forget to remind me that I am a good person who needs to fight and deserves better. For that my friend this relationship is definitely a two-way one.
Unfiltered from my diary....
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